{"product_id":"the-state-of-affairs-esther-perel-non-fiction-paperback","title":"The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel - Non Fiction - Paperback","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eDetails\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCondition: Brand New\u003cbr\u003eFormat: Paperback\u003cbr\u003eISBN: 9781473673557\u003cbr\u003ePublisher: Yellow Kite\u003cbr\u003ePage Count: 336\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eOverview\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn \u003cem\u003eThe State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity\u003c\/em\u003e, psychotherapist Esther Perel challenges readers to move past blame and shame when it comes to cheating. Drawing on years of clinical work with couples in crisis, she asks not just why people stray, but what an affair can reveal about longing, identity, and the modern marriage. This New York Times bestseller reframes infidelity as a complex human experience rather than a simple moral failing, offering compassionate, evidence-based insight for anyone touched by betrayal, curiosity, or the messy realities of long-term love and commitment.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAbout the Book\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eEsther Perel has spent over a decade counseling couples through the aftermath of infidelity, and \u003cem\u003eThe State of Affairs\u003c\/em\u003e distills that clinical experience into a candid, deeply researched exploration of one of the most charged subjects in relationships today. Rather than issuing verdicts, Perel asks harder, more useful questions: What do we seek in an affair that we cannot find at home? Why does an act of betrayal so often bring couples face-to-face with unmet needs, unspoken longing, and questions of identity? Pulling from real client stories, cultural history, and contemporary research, she examines how shifting expectations around monogamy, romance, and self-fulfillment have transformed what infidelity means in the twenty-first century. The book moves through the anatomy of an affair — the discovery, the confession, the fallout — while resisting easy answers or prescriptive rules. Perel gives language to experiences many couples struggle to articulate: the grief of betrayal, the strange excitement of a secret life, the disorientation of rebuilding trust. She also addresses how couples therapists and clinicians can better support clients navigating these ruptures, making the book a resource not only for partners in crisis but for the professionals who work with them. Written in Perel's signature warm, incisive style, \u003cem\u003eThe State of Affairs\u003c\/em\u003e balances rigorous analysis with genuine empathy, refusing to flatten a complicated topic into simple villains and victims. It is a book for anyone who has loved, been loved, or wondered what fidelity really requires of us.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKey Benefits\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWritten by renowned psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOffers a nuanced, non-judgmental framework for understanding infidelity\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDraws on real client stories and years of clinical practice\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eProvides practical language for difficult conversations about trust and desire\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eValuable for couples, individuals, and relationship therapists alike\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThought-provoking pick for book clubs and discussion groups\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eEsther Perel is a psychotherapist and one of today's most sought-after voices on relationships, desire, and infidelity. Born in Belgium to Holocaust survivors, she has built an international career as a couples and family therapist based in New York City, and serves as an organizational consultant for companies worldwide. Perel is the author of the bestselling \u003cem\u003eMating in Captivity\u003c\/em\u003e and hosts the popular podcasts \u003cem\u003eWhere Should We Begin?\u003c\/em\u003e and \u003cem\u003eHow's Work?\u003c\/em\u003e. Fluent in nine languages, she is widely known for her TED talks on modern love, which have been viewed by millions.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhy You'll Love This Book\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHonest, compassionate, and genuinely eye-opening, this book gives readers new language for one of love's hardest conversations. It's a thoughtful gift for anniversaries, book clubs, the holiday season, therapists' offices, or anyone quietly navigating the complicated terrain of modern relationships and trust after betrayal has occurred.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003ePlease Note: This is the UK edition with the ISBN as listed; the cover may vary slightly from the image shown.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Esther Perel","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":57171553747318,"sku":"MAN-9781473673557","price":12.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0575\/6587\/2211\/files\/state-of-affairs-esther-perel-paperback.jpg?v=1786066002","url":"https:\/\/skymartbooks.com\/products\/the-state-of-affairs-esther-perel-non-fiction-paperback","provider":"Skymart Books","version":"1.0","type":"link"}